The Peacemaker (the Nine)

Peacemakers are receptive, good-natured, and supportive. They seek union with others and the world around them.

How to Get Along with Me

• If you want me to do something, how you ask is important. I especially don't like expectations or pressure.
• I like to listen and to be of service, but don't take advatage of this.
• Listen until I finish speaking, even though I meander a bit.
• Give me time to finish things and make decisions. It's OK to nudge me gently and nonjudgmentally.
• Ask me questions to help me get clear.
• Tell me when you like how I look. I'm not averse to flattery.
• Hug me, show physical affection. It opens me up to my feelings.
• I like a good discussion but not a confrontation.
• Let me know you like what I've done or said.
• Laugh with me and share in my enjoyment of life.

What I Like About Being a Nine

• being nonjudgmental and accepting
• caring for and being concerned about others
• being able to relax and have a good time
• knowing that most people enjoy my company; I'm easy to be around
• my ability to see many different sides of an issue and to be a good mediator and facilitator
• my heightened awareness of sensations, aesthetics, and the here and now
• being able to go with the flow and feel one with the universe

What's Hard About Being a Nine

• being judged and misunderstood for being placid and/or indecisive
• being critical of myself for lacking initiative and discipline
• being too sensitive to criticism; taking every raised eyebrow and twitch of the mouth personally
• being confused about what I really want
• caring too much about what others will think of me
• not being listened to or taken seriously

Nines as Children Often

• feel ignored and that their wants, opinions, and feelings are unimportant
• tune out a lot, especially when others argue
• are "good" children: deny anger or keep it to themselves

Nines as Parents

• are supportive, kind, and warm
• are sometimes overly permissive or nondirective

Renee Baron & Elizabeth Wagele

Personality Type Nine: The Peacemaker
The Peaceful, Reassuring, Passive, Repressed Person

Childhood Origin:	Connected to parental-figures.
Basic Fear:	Of separation.
Basic Desire:	To have union with other.
Healthy Sense of Self:	I am peaceful.
Characteristic Temptation:	To be too accomodating.
Characteristic Vice:	Sloth in self-remembering.
Characteristic Virtue:	Patience.
Hidden Complaint:	I am content with the way things are, although everyone else is always pressuring me to change.
Key Defense Mechanisms:	Repression, dissociation, denial.

Point Nine: The Program of Non-aggression with Indolence and Indecision

Special Gift:	Peaceful awareness
Self-Definition:	"I'm easy-going."
Shadow Issue:	Laziness
Rejected Element:	Conflict
Addiction:	Indecision/Inaction
Strength Needed:	Action (Love)
Defense Mechanism:	Narcotization; "shutting off the juice"
Psychological Disturbance:	Obsessive/passive aggressive personality
Talk Style:	Epic stories
Preoccupations Include:	Dichotomy of belief/doubt. Dichotomy of mystical/worldly concerns. Replacing essential needs with inessential substitutes. Indecisiveness and difficulty saying "no". Containment of physical energy and anger. Control through stubbornness and passive aggression. Fluctuating attitudes, oppositional behavior and emotions -- either to adhere to the desires of others as a means of gaining security, or to be defiantly resistant and independent. Difficulty in maintaining a personal point of view, but ability to recognize and support another's position. Fight-phobic: avoiding conflict by not knowing the anger wihtin.
Focus:	Personal emphasis on appetite. Couple emphasis on union. Community emphasis on participation.
Life Task:	To experience love guided by the strength of taking actions appropriate to any given situation, including conflict.

0.0 whoa. fine, i get it. i'm lazy.... :/ hahaha. i cant be bothered to redo my chem ia -.-

NI HAO.

okay, my life has been getting very confusing. hm, sometimes i just dont know how to react properly. so recently i've not been reacting. haha, sorry friends. its just that sometimes i'm just too tired of reacting as i used to. i really need more sleep. :/

i've been thinking too much in the previous post anw. seriously. hahaha, life aint that bad i suppose. with awesome friends and family. hehehe.

but but still, i have no idea how to react to a few people in my life. give me some time to figure it out. i promise i'll do my best in figuring that out. cos you really are worth it(:

so currently sorry if i seem like quieter(very unlike janice i know HEHE.) and more emo-ish( actually more of ponderish.) and sometimes when i'm just looking down (i might be praying for help) so yeah.

thanks xintian and astika for being a friend. when i'm all stressed up. thanks for assuring me.

thanks koonhan for being an awesome friend. and cheering me up and whatnots. you goodguy, must rmb that. but its just so fun to tease you. hahaha.

thanks daddy, for talking to me even when you have so many ias to do. just to sort out my own thoughts and help me figure out whats happening when i have no idea how or what to do.

thanks junming for trying to cheer me up, even though you do it in super weird ways. hahah, thanks for talking to me till 2.30am, crapping actually. hahaha, even when you have stuff to do.

thanks david also for telling me jokes when i'm bored. HEHE. and tricking me sometimes. hahaha. i'm talking about your stupid joke btw.

thanks everyone(:

you people are very awesome. :D love you ppl. hahaha.

today i read proverb of the day! hahaha. some email subscription thingy that is for quiet time lah. it was talking about friends. Jonathan was a good friend to King David (no not you -.-) and he strengthened his friend's faith towards God and was a true friend in many ways. hahah, so i kinda decided that i'm gonna try to be a good friend as much as possible. i'm gonna be like jonathan(:

and something else also stood out. silas and paul. they were caught and thrown into prison. but yet, they were singing praises to God and these people really stood out. as servants of God! so awesome. hahah, so yeah, I'LL PRAISE YOU IN THIS STORM!(: hahahaha. yayyyy.

oh well. anw. enough blogging. i'm gonna have to do my work. or sth. or maybe just go eat more food:D wheeeee. love you ppl.

If anyone asks,
Ill tell them we've both just moved on.
When people all stare,
I'll pretend that I don't hear them talk.
Whenever I see you,
I'll swallow my pride, and bite my tongue.
Pretend I'm OK with it all,
Act like there's nothing wrong.

Is it over yet?
Can I open my eyes?
Is this as hard as it gets?
Is this what it feels like to really cry?
Cry

I'm Talking in circles.
I'm lying they know it.
Why wont this just stop and go away


emo song yes i know. but sometimes, dont you feel like that.

i really dont know anymore. why am i so disappointed anw.

it just doesnt matter anymore. keep me strong. i know i can make it. i will be a fool, for Christ. i am willing to be. just give me the strength. let me love in a very unloving world.

i was praying just now. and this proverb came to my mind. proverbs 26. gave me some comfort. some understanding as well.

its sad. husbands being taken away from wives. fathers taken away from sons. whats wrong with this world. but in this tragedy, love can be seen. care and concern being poured out upon the family. i just pray for strength, bond the family of mr zaimal.

its tiring. insults. yellings. the people just wanted to get on. to rush home and seek refuge from this harsh life. all it took was for the people to move back, shift back. its tiring. to choose between helping others and helping yourself. all he wanted to do is to open the door and let more ppl in. why complain, why not just cooperate and let others on as well? its very tiring. i just pray for strength, love from his family to keep the bus-driver going.


its tough. 'you know i don't mind school now cos i'm used to disliking it.' 'alot of things aren't as simple as it is like in cedar' whats wrong with this world. SERIOUSLY. whats wrong. why backstab your friends? why laugh at your friends and make them jokes? whats with all the politics? its really very tough. i just pray for strength, perseverance for these friends to just keep on going. just know that, i'll be your friend. forever.

its hard. 'sometimes people only start conversations with me when they need my help.' i really dont know. its just. like that. in a society where people only look out for themselves. they may not ask you about your life, about your day. its hard. i just pray for strength, for love to flow so you'll change your mind about getting your 'revenge'.

its disappointing. 'but too much ignorance -or rather not ignoring it in the first place- isnt really blissful.' its disappointing. i pray for strength. i just pray for faith and hope. a beacon of light in this world.

life. sometimes, is indeed extremely tough. but know that i'm always willing to be your friend and i sometimes wish for someone to say that to me. but, i realised. its more than between men. what we need passes beyond what human or material things can give us, the reassurance, the hope. humans will always fail. but i know God wont.

so just pray. even if you're not christian, even though you may not fully believe, even if you have doubts, just pray for strength, for help and for hope. most of all for love. thats what i'm going to do.

life may be screwed up. but, whatever it is. i pray that i can shine God's light through in this world. forgiving in situations where people will refuse to forgive, love when its difficult to. you may laugh at me, but i'm willing to be a fool for Christ.

let me just end off with this song. praise you in this storm by casting crowns.
I was sure by now
God You would have reached down
And wiped our tears away
Stepped in and saved the day
But once again, I say "Amen", and it's still raining
As the thunder rolls
I barely hear You whisper through the rain"I'm with you"
And as Your mercy falls
I raise my hands and praise the God who gives
And takes away

And I'll praise You in this storm
And I will lift my hands
For You are who You are
No matter where I am
And every tear I've cried
You hold in Your hand
You never left my side
And though my heart is torn
I will praise You in this storm

I remember whenI stumbled in the wind
You heard my cry to you
And you raised me up again
My strength is almost gone
How can I carry on
If I can't find You
But as the thunder rolls
I barely hear You whisper through the rain"I'm with you"
And as Your mercy falls
I raise my hands and praise the God who gives
And takes away

I lift my eyes unto the hills
Where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord
The Maker of Heaven and Earth

You placed the stars in the sky, and you know them by name.
You are amazing God.
You see the depths of my heart, and you love me the same.
You are amazing God.

Indescribable. hm, this song is very awesome. currently addicted to this song. and another one.
take a bow by leona lewis.

there's no turning back
Its for the better
Baby I deserved more than empty words
And promises
I believed everything you said
And I give you the best I have

So take a bow.
Cause you've taken everything else
You played the part and like a star you played it so well
Take a bow
'cause this scene is coming to an end
I gave you love. All you give me was pretense
So now... Take a bow

super nice. her voice is nice. love that singer. rocks(:

anw, now exams are almost over. just two more subjects. and i dont want it to end. gah. these few days of mugging are so awesome. and when school reopens i'll have to go back to iop. damnit. i hate that life. i'd rather study. or have lessons. just dont throw me a book and tell me to analyse it. -.- and yeah. i really wish i was at least a O level student taking a O level literature paper. but no, i have no experience at all. why cant you understand that. gah. nvm.

so yeah. speaking of these few days of mugging alone. haha, i stoned alot actually. not stone lah. but observed and thought alot.. sitting at polar cafe mugging today. saw a girl. little girl. carrying a handbag0.0! what the. even i dont. hahaha. i was like, whats this world coming too. the influence of society. haha, then i was so amused by that girl. like the way she walked... i have this feeling she watched too much of America's next top model or sth. lol, weird.....

i have no idea why. but. everything is getting really dull now. as in, i miss 4C. haha, even during our O level people, we all supported each other with encouragement and everything. everyone. so friendly and... open. not that here is bad of course. haha, there are really awesome ppl. 'body language for dummies!' hahaha. and like, 'asteeeeeeka' and 'HI FRIENDS:D' haha. so funny. and all the teasing. 'muhammed ali!' hahaha. but its just different. its like. LORMS. LOL. there are just different levels. there's just no time to get to know everyone. -.- whats this.

ah idk. maybe its just JC life. but like, i felt super envious when i saw fional mugging with her friends. how come i cant do that): how come now it doesnt work anymore. whyyyyyyyy):

anw, i just got a new music player. (: so awesome. i love listening to music while mugging. super relaxing. and exciting. hahaha! they contradict. but. its true! at least today i found out that i can survive without my handphone and alan. but i cannot survive without music. haha.

i cant wait to go shopping. HAHA. i realised that i'm always wearing the same clothes. damnit. GAHHHHHHHH. -.- nothing to wear. everything's super expensive nowadays. )x oh what the hell. and my mum says i have to be more girl now.. -.- i suppose that means less shorts and more skirts/dress. oh what the. okay nvm. haha, i keep saying what the. i know. srslyyyyyy. ): pohhui bought 5dresses that day. in like what 4hours. gosh. i was like, how do you buy so many dresses0.0! i have never worn. HAHAHA. gosh.

sigh. okay nvm. here am i again. going back to reality. i really feel sad when all friends come to talk to you about is homework. EE. IAs. TOK. is that the only thing that bonds us in IB? finishing all those together? okay maybe. i suppose so. i have no idea what i'm looking for also. its just.... desperately. gahhhhhhhh. nvm.

Hi. if pohhui reads this she's gonna say i'm all stressed up again. -.- i'm just. extremely tired. burnt out. whatever you call it. physically. mentally, rarely. my body clock is weird. i cannot wake up before 10am. SERIOUSLY. i used to go church at 9am everyweek. now is like.... 11am service... cant even wake up okay!0.0! GOSH!

-i just want to relive it all over again. cos it was the best we ever had. and we'll never be the same again.